The rest of the time he’s here with me, but before he goes to work, he has to go check on her. She drives, gardens, cooks and is very much on the go. I’ve always been fairly independent and able to support myself without any problems.
How can I reconcile taking their gracious gift when my independent nature was telling me not to?
White women have historically been perpetrators of violence against black women’s bodies, and the same entitlement and identity-centeredness in feminism has enabled them to proclaim themselves as the arbiters of womanhood.” The logic that led 19th century white feminists to push for votes for white women alone is still, painfully, visible in Murphy’s attack on Cox.
Some women are not worthy of kindness, of love or of sisterhood.
In a short but impressively cruel post, Murphy sneers at Cox for attempting to achieve a “‘perfect’ body as defined by a patriarchal/porn culture, through plastic surgery, and then presenting it as a sexualized object for public consumption.” She scoffs at the idea that trans women who take hormones or have surgery are accepting themselves.
Murphy suggests that trans women are “spending thousands and thousands of dollars sculpting their bodies in order to look like some cartoonish version of 'woman,’ as defined by the porn industry and pop culture.” Cox, for Murphy, is a cartoon: a plastic-surgery-constructed thing, unreal and, in its parody of beauty, ugly. With black feminist activist Sojourner Truth, Cox, in her nakedness, asks, “Ain’t I a woman?